1. It doesn’t mean what you think it means.
Chances are we think that number means we’re fat or a failure or it will take forever to reach our goal. That’s not what that number means. All that number really represents is what our body weighs. Period.
Most of us can’t look at that number without judging ourselves and feeling like crap. All that other meaning we load on top of the actual black and white number causes us pain. For example, we think because I weigh X, that proves I’m undisciplined or means I’m out of control or is evidence that I’m a big fat loser.
Nonsense. That thinking doesn’t help us one bit.
All the number on the scale means is that’s how much your bones, muscles, organs and all the cells of you body weigh. That’s it.
2. It doesn’t mean you won’t achieve your goal.
Many of us think that because our current weight is not where we want it to be or because we have gained weight in the past or “failed at diets” or been emotionally overeating that there is not much hope for us.
When we quit walking our path before we reach the results we want, it is true that we will not reach our natural weight. But that is not because it’s not possible or achievable, it’s because we stopped. We quit. We failed to keep going.
That is the only failure.
Like the stock market, past performance is not an indication of future results.
If we keep going, we reach our goals.
3. Your past choices created the existing number. Your current and future choices can create a new number.
No number is a life sentence. We always have the opportunity to make new choices, regardless of whether we’ve repeated the same old choices over and over up until now.
4. If the number you see is not the one you want to see, the number is irrelevant.
What’s relevant is the number we intend to create and how we intend to feel when we reach it. As Abraham-Hicks states, “Only face reality if it’s exactly how you want it to be.” Otherwise, let’s imagine and conjure up the feeling of the reality we want to be having. Feel into it. Let’s match that feeling now, and then Law of Attraction must bring us more of it. Creation happens vibrationally first, then the manifestation follows.
When we truly find the feeling of our natural weight and consciously welcome it and encourage it to grow within us now, we are doing the vibrational pre-work that is necessary to pave the way for it to manifest on our bodies.
5. The number doesn’t change how your body works.
Eating in concert with our body’s cues will always be a key factor in reaching our natural weight. There’s no getting around this. Our bodies do best when they are in charge of our eating. This means we start eating when we’re physically hungry, and we stop eating when we’re physically sated and comfortable. The less processed the foods are that we eat and the more whole and natural, the more nourishment our bodies derive from them.
6. It doesn’t change how feelings work.
When we use food to avoid our feelings, we are giving it a job that it is ill-equipped to handle. We always have the opportunity to address our feelings at the causal level or to avoid them with any number of distractions: food, spending, TV, alcohol, work, children, etc.
Feelings are caused, changed and resolved by our thinking. If we want to truly resolve our emotional overeating, we will need to address the cause of our negative emotions. Choosing this path is always available regardless of the number on the scale.
7. It doesn’t change how growth works.
We tend to think that weight loss should be a steady path that follows a straight line, but here’s the truth. Growth is messy. The journey of our life will be less “straight line” and more like a scribbly, squiggly line with left turns, right turns, U-turns, detours, availing ourselves of a few rest stops, and encountering roads that are closed for construction.
8. It doesn’t change the fact that “keeping going” is the secret.
Reaching our “ideal number” isn’t a signal to relax. It’s not a sign that we can finally stop and let go. It means all our work, attention, focus and mind management got us here, AND it’s also what’s going to keep us here. When we finally see a number we like on the scale, that is not the end. It’s just the beginning. That’s when we keep going. Keeping going in spite of all the obstacles or setbacks is a key factor in an worthwhile achievement.
9. If you like the number, it doesn’t mean you’ll feel worthy, enough, happy, sexy or desirable.
The size of our body doesn’t determine this. Nope. You do. Specifically, your thoughts do.
We’ve all known a skinny-minny who still thinks she’s overweight and wants desperately to lose just a few more pounds. Heck, we might have even been that skinny-minny once. Have you ever looked at a picture of yourself at a lower weight and thought, “I actually look pretty good,” but you know that at that time in your life you didn’t think you measured up and were quite unhappy about the size of your body.
When we’re judging ourselves and being self-critical, we’re causing ourselves pain and leading to feelings of dissatisfaction with ourselves. It’s the judgment and self-criticism that get in the way of feeling worthy and happy, not the number on the scale.
10. The number doesn’t determine how you feel.
It’s our thinking that does that. What we think about that number determines everything. For example, if we look at X number on the scale and then think and believe, “I’m a big fat loser who can’t control herself,” we probably feel embarrassed or ashamed. But imagine if we were to look at that same number on the scale and instead think and believe, “I’m listening to my body’s cues, exercising more and more, and handling my emotions at the causal level and not with food, AND if I keep doing that, I am sure I will lose weight.” In this scenario, we would feel confident, clear, hopeful.
You can have the same number but vastly different thinking.
That’s what makes the difference.
One set of thinking can consistently lead us down the path of emotionally overeating while the other leads to inspired action and peaceful weight loss.
How we think about the number on the scale is a choice.
What do you choose?