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Poison Thought #1: I deserve this…

Poison Thought #1: I deserve this…

There is some kind of trigger…   Something your boss or your spouse or your kid or a friend said.   A relationship that is not going the way you want it to.   More traffic than usual on your commute home, a “bad day” at work, an emergency, something...
Of Diaphragms, Divorce & Damage

Of Diaphragms, Divorce & Damage

I was conceived during the confusion of the divorce between my parents.   My mother was using a diaphragm.   As a child, I will interpret this to mean that I was:   A mistake.   Unwanted.   Unplanned.   And therefore, undesired.   I...
Un-Victim Yourself

Un-Victim Yourself

Without “Life is unfair,” there is action.   Without “They ruined my life,” there is building the life you want.   Without “They should have                        ,” there is only, “I will­                        .”   Without “It’s too hard,” there is...
I’m Not Going to Make My Flight

I’m Not Going to Make My Flight

On a recent flight, the plane was landing four minutes after my connecting flight was scheduled for departure.   I began to worry from thinking, “I’m not going to make my flight.”   After the plane touched down on the runway, it taxied for what seemed like...
Feel Better Now.

Feel Better Now.

A client of mine was not treating herself very well. She asked me: What do you recommend I do to start catching myself sooner? I told her: Start allowing for it to be 100% okay to simply observe “what is” (i.e., beating yourself down, judging yourself,...
Hunt for Your Own Happiness

Hunt for Your Own Happiness

With wolves, the offspring’s very existence depends on the mother’s ability and willingness to provide mother’s milk. If the mother is not able to produce milk (isn’t capable) or, for some reason, rejects the offspring and won’t provide milk, the offspring will...
Beautiful At Last

Beautiful At Last

A coach I admire and respect (and who has worked with me for several months without ever having seen my face) recently had the opportunity to see a video that I created. She commented on the video and then included this at the end of her email:           (oh and you...
100% Responsibility

100% Responsibility

I recently worked with a client who saw herself as having caused her mother’s unhappiness, thwarted her mother’s creative expression, and  impeded her mother’s freedom to enjoy her life more and go out and make her own way. Here’s what I told...